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"If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts,
liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes."
- Andrew Carnegie, the richest man in America 100 years ago
Envisioning Romantic Relationships
We envision romantic relationships,
and especially marriages, that are full of
love, respect, passion, and are long-lasting where the woman feels safe
enough to express her full feminine essence,
in all its various aspects, and where the man
is clear and strong enough to penetrate his
woman’s heart and soul with love, conviction,
passion, and integrity while remaining fully
present and never pulling back.
Romantic relationships as described above do
exist and we know many couples who have them. Yet,
by far there are many, many more men and women
who crave such a relationship and don’t
have it. Why is that??
Being in a successful, happy
romantic relationship requires that both parties
understand what their roles and responsibilities
are. While both roles
do play off each other and can spiral upwards
to more happiness or downwards to disunity depending
on the interchange between the parties, there
are specific actions that the man and woman
can each individually do to ensure greater on-going
happiness in the relationship. In this article
we’ll focus on the man.
One of the keys to winning
your woman’s
heart and soul is to be “present” in
the relationship. This means to be emotionally
and physically with her when she’s demanding
your attention—whether it be in play or
rest or when she’s having a meltdown or
being in the “rage monster. DO NOT
GO AWAY!—stay emotionally and physically
in the room.
Irrespective of what she says (i.e.: the words
she speaks), if you will just stay present,
in a real and authentic way, without patronizing
or belittling what she is experiencing, she
will eventually melt into you. In fact,
instead of moving back or away when she is upset
(which is what most men do), if you instead
feel into her energy, look through her eyes
to the depths of her soul and LEAN INTO HER
with your energy, she will FEEL your presence
and realize she can trust you to keep her safe—even
from herself.
She will open to you, sooner or later, depending
on how emotionally charged she is at that moment.
Just stay present and don’t leave, no
matter what she says or does.
An important point for a
man to remember is that his woman will ALWAYS
be testing him….in
essence, to see if he is going to stay present. This is something that never ends, even in the
best of relationships, and is actually a female
genetic trait. If a man truly understands this
and can actually relish those intense relationship
moments, knowing that she really wants him there
and wants him to be strong, she will surrender
to him and his love…as she knows that
she can trust him to remain present. And once
that happens, she will feel safe enough to express
her full feminine essence…which can be
one of the greatest joys a man can experience.
Wishing you a Happy Marriage,
Louisa & Kevin
Marriage Celebrators
Be -and Stay- Happily Married™
Kevin & Louisa are marriage educators
and celebrators and are still passionately in love after almost
30 years together. Both Kevin & Louisa can be reached via
email at Kevin@BeHappilyMarried.com and Louisa@BeHappilyMarried.com
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